How to break the bystander effect

What would you do?

Jun 11, 2022

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Hello from my desk! And happy Friday. I am so excited to bring you this week’s podcast episode, which features bystander intervention training—the life-changing tools you didn’t know you needed.

Be prepared

Think back to the last time you witnessed a harmful act in public. Maybe you saw a man yell racist words at a teenage girl on the streetcar. Or like me, you came upon an a bloody fight very early in the morning while jogging. Whatever it was that happened, it could have been at the mall, in your classroom or online, in a Twitter spat.

What did you do?

Julie Lalonde is an Ottawa-based educator and women’s rights advocate who has been teaching bystander intervention training for over 10 years. I spoke with her for my newsletter last fall and what she taught was so life-changing that I needed to bring her back for a podcast episode.

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What makes a safe community?

Every week I write, I’m reminded that community is the key to so many social problems. Loneliness is harming our health1. And last week, I mentioned Ontario’s lowest voter turn-out ever. Well, what makes a person use the political levers available to them if they don’t feel a sense of belonging and community in the first place?

And then there is fear. We are experiencing a sad and scary sharp increase in racist hate crimes2 and gender-based violence3. As Julie pointed out to me last fall, these complex social issues won’t be solved by information alone. We need tools to address them.

Julie teaches the 5D’s of bystander intervention. They’re simple to remember but you have to know how to use them. Once you do, knowing these tools can help you act during those unexpected moments.

And I believe it’s those small, everyday actions that build a safer community, not buying a home in a specific neighbourhood or installing a security guard or increasing a police budget. A safer community isn’t *waves arms around* a thing out there to find on a quest.

A safer community is in our daily interactions with other people. And we can practice them every day.

Julie blasts the myth that bystanders don’t care, that people want to keep moving with their day or that they simply don’t want to get involved. The truth is, we are people with empathy. People do intervene. But effective interventions might not fit your mental image of what it means to be a superhero who defuses a heightened situation and that’s okay because we should focus on what works.

Have a listen to this episode and let me know what you think by giving it a rating or review on Apple Podcasts.

Big thanks to Julie for doing the work that she does. It’s life-giving and important and useful.

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Happy weekend listening!

Hannah

✨✨✨At The End Of the Day is edited by Laura Hensley and the podcast is produced by Olivia Trono with additional producing this week by Frances Kim ✨✨✨

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👓 And some weekend reading for you:

The Six Forces That Fuel Friendship, The Atlantic Yep, this is pretty much the formula

As columnist Elizabeth Renzetti bids farewell to The Globe, a look at five of her most memorable columns, The Globe and Mail I am a massive fan of Elizabeth Renzetti and will miss opening my weekend paper to look for her column first. She’s a supporter of this newsletter, which I appreciate so much, and I am willing to follow her wherever she goes to keep reading her crackling, whipsmart worldview that always manages to give me a laugh, too

BTS Gives Proof, LaineyGossip There’s a new anthology from BTS and I think you all know where I stan(d) with this band. When it comes to BTS knowledge, you better listen to Lainey!

Joyce Grant @JGCanada

Join me in the Kids' Activity Zone at 4 p.m. tomorrow, Saturday, June 10 @torontoWOTS -- We'll play "Post or Pass?" and I'll sign your copy of Can You Believe It?! #CYBIBook #MediaLiteracy @KidsCanPress

If you’re in Toronto, catch Joyce Grant at Word on the Street on Saturday afternoon. I featured Joyce and her book, “Can You Believe It? How To Spot Fake News and Find The Facts” in the podcast two weeks ago.